(Note: The telephone meetings moderator is not the same as the meeting secretary, unless it has been decided differently. A moderator is like a lifeguard at the side of the pool as a safety measure. When telephone meetings are open to the public, as ours will be posted on our website, the moderator can help to keep the meeting safe and on track.)
(Secretaries, also consider keeping a pad and pencil handy to write down the names of members that enter the meeting. You can also designate certain people to do the readings.)
Welcome
Hello and welcome to the:
[ Monday Women’s / Monday Men’s ]
[ Tuesday Co-Ed / Wednesday Step Study / Thursday Co-Ed ]
[ Saturday Co-Ed / Sunday Meditation ]
Meeting of Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous.
My name is _____________ and I am a _______________ addict. I will also be your secretary for this meeting and _______________ will be our moderator. I have a few suggestions for our Dial-In meeting:
- please arrive two minutes before the meeting starts
- mute your phone when not speaking
- keep background noise to a minimum
- state your name before speaking
[Optional: Serenity Prayer and going around the “room,” each saying our names: this can be challenging during conference calls.]
I have asked ____________ to read the Preamble as found on page 125 in the SLAA Basic Text.
Is there anyone here at this meeting for the first time or anyone attending their first SLAA meeting that would like to state their name? Are there any questions about dial-in meetings in general?
I have asked ____________ to read the 12 Steps as found on page 67 in our Basic Text.
[Optional: reading the 12 Traditions]
Are there any SLAA-related announcements?
(Note: Sunday Meditation and Wednesday Step Meetings would follow their own meeting structure. All other meetings can follow what’s below.)
- Week 1: corresponding month/Step Study
- Week 2: (speaker or SLAA approved literature)
- Week 3: (topic)
- Week 4: (SLAA literature or group conscious)
- Week 5: (group conscience or getting current)
(Note: The last Tuesday of the month is our Birthday Meeting. March 31st will be hosted by the Monday Womens meeting; April 28th will be hosted by the Monday Men’s meeting; and May 26th will be hosted by the Tuesday Co-Ed meeting.)
After the speaker / readings
We ask that when sharing to please refrain from using language or details that could be triggering to other members. Consider sharing for 3 to 5 minutes to give others a chance to share. Please refrain from cross-talk. Examples of cross-talk are: advice-giving, criticizing or commenting on what others have shared, and interrupting the speaker with comments or questions.
After sharing
Thank you, that’s all the time we have. Meetings are free to all who need them, but please consider donating your 7th Tradition money to Fellowship Wide Services, or hold on to your donations until our face-to-face meetings resume. Our donations help keep our meetings alive as well as pay for our literature.
Is there anyone willing to be a temporary or permanent sponsor? Thank you.
Our dial-in meetings will continue to happen during our regularly scheduled face-to-face meetings. We may move to video/audio Meetings through Zoom. More will be revealed so stay tuned for informational texts from Intergroup.
Any final readings if available
- Promises
- Signs of Recovery
- Characteristics of a Sex and Love Addict
Closing statement
This is our closing statement: We would like to remind you that the opinions expressed here were strictly those of the person who gave them. Take what you like and leave the rest. Also, anonymity is the spiritual foundation of our program. If we are to recover, we must feel free to say what is in our minds and hearts. Therefore, who you see here, what you hear here, when you leave here, let it stay here.
Group conscience has designated this an open meeting , open to all those with a desire to stop living out a pattern of Sex and love addiction and anyone wishing to find out more about SLAA. However, because of the sensitive and personal nature of the sharing, we suggest that if someone expresses an interest in attending a meeting for the first time, you share with that person some of your own experience and some of the literature of SLAA. Our purpose in suggesting this is to make the program widely available to others while at the same time protecting the anonymity of its members.
Closing prayer
Serenity Prayer or other
S.L.A.A. Monterey Bay 