(Note: The zoom meetings moderator is not the same as the meeting secretary, unless it has been decided differently. A moderator is like a lifeguard at the side of the pool as a safety measure. When zoom meetings are open to the public, as ours will be posted on our website, the moderator can help to keep the meeting safe and on track.)
(Secretaries, also consider keeping a pad and pencil handy to write down the names of members that enter the meeting. You can also designate certain people to do the readings.)
Welcome
Hello and welcome to the:
[ Monday Women’s / Monday Men’s ]
[ Tuesday Co-Ed / Wednesday Step Study / Thursday Co-Ed ]
[ Saturday Co-Ed / Sunday Meditation ]
Meeting of Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous.
My name is _____________ and I am a _______________ addict. I will be your secretary for this meeting. I have a few suggestions for our Zoom meeting:
- Mute your device when you are not speaking
- You are encouraged, but not required, to keep your camera on during the meeting. We find this to be a friendly and welcoming gesture that increases everyone’s engagement in the meeting.
- State your name before speaking. You can then add your addiction, and if you wish to, you can share the time you’ve been sober from your bottom line behaviors. For example, I’m ____ a Sex and Love Addict. I have been sober from my bottom line behaviors for ____ days/months/years.
I have asked ____________ to read the Preamble to the SLAA Basic Text.
If you are here for the first time, congratulations — you have found a great meeting and we welcome you. Please feel free to type your name in the chat box. Unfortunately, we have had meetings disrupted by Zoom bombers in the past, so newcomers’ audio and video are turned off at the start of this meeting. We will lift the restriction later in the meeting for those new attendees who would like to share. By the way, this meeting is 75 minutes long, ending at 7:45 Pacific Time. After the formal meeting is over you are invited to remain online in the “parking lot” for informal conversation until 8:00.
I have asked ____________ to read the 12 Steps.
[Optional: reading the 12 Traditions]
Are there any SLAA-related announcements?
Week 1: corresponding month/Step Study
Week 2: (speaker or SLAA approved literature)
Week 3: (topic)
Week 4: (SLAA literature or group conscious and SLAA Tradition)
Week 5: (group conscience or getting current)
After the speaker / readings
We will now open the meeting up for sharing on the [reading or topics] or getting current. We don’t use a timer in this meeting, trusting that everyone will be considerate so that everyone has a chance to speak. When sharing, please be thoughtful about using language or graphic details that could be triggering to other members. Please refrain from cross-talk. Examples of cross-talk are: advice-giving, criticizing or commenting on what others have shared, and interrupting the speaker with comments or questions. The “no cross-talk” guideline helps create a safe environment for members to be vulnerable and share their deepest feelings and mistakes without judgment or interruption.
After sharing
Thank you, that’s all the time we have. Meetings are free to all who need them, but please consider contributing your 7th Tradition money to Fellowship Wide Services. Our contributions help keep our meetings alive as well as pay for the website and Zoom access.
If anyone is willing to be a temporary or permanent sponsor, or if you are new and looking for a sponsor, please type your name and contact information into the chat. I will share the phone list of members who are available to offer outreach or general support. If you would like to be included on the list, please type your information in the chat, as well.
Any final readings if available
Promises
Signs of Recovery
Characteristics of a Sex and Love Addict
Closing statement
Group conscience has designated this an open meeting, open to both those with a desire to stop living out a pattern of Sex and love addiction and to anyone wishing to find out more about SLAA.
We would like to remind you that the opinions expressed here were strictly those of the person who gave them. Take what you like and leave the rest. Also, anonymity is the spiritual foundation of our program. If we are to recover, we must feel free to say what is in our minds and hearts. Therefore, who you see here, what you hear here, when you leave here, let it stay here.
Closing prayer Serenity Prayer or other
S.L.A.A. Monterey Bay 